Comments for Rod E. Smith / writer, therapist - all about relationships http://rodesmith.com 1000+ columns - increasing daily - sometimes the web has a face Fri, 30 Jul 2010 23:21:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on Help! – readers who loved Durban’s soccer in the sixties… by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT http://rodesmith.com/2006/12/04/help-readers-who-loved-durbans-soccer-in-the-sixties/#comment-26000 Rod E. Smith, MSMFT Fri, 30 Jul 2010 23:21:10 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/12/04/help-readers-who-loved-durbans-soccer-in-the-sixties/#comment-26000 Hello Stuart -- I (Rod Smith) have never had his contact details. Perhaps another reader will read this and be able to respond to you with it. Hello Stuart — I (Rod Smith) have never had his contact details. Perhaps another reader will read this and be able to respond to you with it.

]]> Comment on Help! – readers who loved Durban’s soccer in the sixties… by stuart daniel http://rodesmith.com/2006/12/04/help-readers-who-loved-durbans-soccer-in-the-sixties/#comment-25999 stuart daniel Fri, 30 Jul 2010 23:15:50 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/12/04/help-readers-who-loved-durbans-soccer-in-the-sixties/#comment-25999 please can you email me contact details for Peter Raath - spoke to him some years ago and have lost contact details - thanks please can you email me contact details for Peter Raath – spoke to him some years ago and have lost contact details – thanks

]]> Comment on I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT I AM THE VILLAIN AS YOUR COLUMN CLAIMS by Thomas Doane http://rodesmith.com/2010/07/30/i-do-not-believe-that-i-am-the-villain-as-your-column-claims/#comment-25997 Thomas Doane Fri, 30 Jul 2010 18:20:23 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/?p=3502#comment-25997 Post-postscript: If he is denying his wife access to money, internet, and car--assuming that he previously had 'provided' these--he is imprisoning his wife which will obviously lead to a growing distortion in their relationship, assuming that she does not leave him, or find a way to provide these things for herself. This man should be aware that if his wife does not pursue these avenues, some of which he may not really want her to do (re: he may not want her to leave him) than the possibility for authentic love and affection will grow daily more impossible and the likelihood of their being some kind of redemptive turnaround in their relationship will become rapidly more improbable. Post-postscript: If he is denying his wife access to money, internet, and car–assuming that he previously had ‘provided’ these–he is imprisoning his wife which will obviously lead to a growing distortion in their relationship, assuming that she does not leave him, or find a way to provide these things for herself. This man should be aware that if his wife does not pursue these avenues, some of which he may not really want her to do (re: he may not want her to leave him) than the possibility for authentic love and affection will grow daily more impossible and the likelihood of their being some kind of redemptive turnaround in their relationship will become rapidly more improbable.

]]> Comment on I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT I AM THE VILLAIN AS YOUR COLUMN CLAIMS by Thomas Doane http://rodesmith.com/2010/07/30/i-do-not-believe-that-i-am-the-villain-as-your-column-claims/#comment-25996 Thomas Doane Fri, 30 Jul 2010 18:10:33 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/?p=3502#comment-25996 Postscript to above posted comment: for example: who has not, at some point in time, been irrationally angry and then overcompensated by being penitent and made the miscalculation of making a joke instead of mustering the courage to make a sincere apology while maintaining integrity and reiterating, calmly, their initial, possibly reasonable, objections? With that said, I still think that this guy might need to have his electricity turned off before he gets soaked. Postscript to above posted comment: for example: who has not, at some point in time, been irrationally angry and then overcompensated by being penitent and made the miscalculation of making a joke instead of mustering the courage to make a sincere apology while maintaining integrity and reiterating, calmly, their initial, possibly reasonable, objections? With that said, I still think that this guy might need to have his electricity turned off before he gets soaked.

]]> Comment on I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT I AM THE VILLAIN AS YOUR COLUMN CLAIMS by Thomas Doane http://rodesmith.com/2010/07/30/i-do-not-believe-that-i-am-the-villain-as-your-column-claims/#comment-25995 Thomas Doane Fri, 30 Jul 2010 17:36:44 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/?p=3502#comment-25995 "Cut her water off." What a charming colloquialism. Perhaps this gentleman should consider plugging his spout. I will agree that at times your rules of basic play can seem like stringent ideals, Rod, but I must also admit that in our culture--for which I will take partial ownership as a member and citizen--unhealthy relationships often seem predominate to such an extent that health seems like an idealistic fantasy. This may be due to original sin, or it may be due to the Republican Party. I'm not sure which. : ) Kidding. Sort of. “Cut her water off.” What a charming colloquialism. Perhaps this gentleman should consider plugging his spout. I will agree that at times your rules of basic play can seem like stringent ideals, Rod, but I must also admit that in our culture–for which I will take partial ownership as a member and citizen–unhealthy relationships often seem predominate to such an extent that health seems like an idealistic fantasy. This may be due to original sin, or it may be due to the Republican Party. I’m not sure which. : ) Kidding. Sort of.

]]> Comment on Are you in danger? by Debbie http://rodesmith.com/2010/07/29/are-you-in-danger/#comment-25994 Debbie Fri, 30 Jul 2010 01:29:21 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/?p=3495#comment-25994 This is a good article. I have been married to a man who fulfills quite a few of these points, but he said it wasn't abuse, he was the head of the home and it was his right to treat me like this. This is a good article. I have been married to a man who fulfills quite a few of these points, but he said it wasn’t abuse, he was the head of the home and it was his right to treat me like this.

]]> Comment on A wife responds to post from a the “other woman”…. by secretlysubmissive http://rodesmith.com/2008/08/06/a-wife-responds-to-post-from-a-the-other-woman/#comment-25990 secretlysubmissive Wed, 28 Jul 2010 20:40:08 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/?p=783#comment-25990 Sometimes things happen beyond our controll, I have been there, and I know she she is hurting, but we are in love and have two children, and I'm not going away nor is he,! Check out my story u may have more understanding :( http://secretlysubmissive.wordpress.com/ Sometimes things happen beyond our controll, I have been there, and I know she she is hurting, but we are in love and have two children, and I’m not going away nor is he,! Check out my story u may have more understanding :(
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]]> Comment on Difficult wife… I am staying for the children… by experiencer http://rodesmith.com/2006/10/12/difficult-wife-i-am-staying-for-the-children/#comment-25989 experiencer Tue, 27 Jul 2010 23:53:31 +0000 http://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/10/12/difficult-wife-i-am-staying-for-the-children/#comment-25989 Stay away from people who give nothing. Sorry im very harsh with that, but in reality, stay away from people who give only crap Look for quality relationships Stay away from people who give nothing.

Sorry im very harsh with that, but in reality, stay away from people who give only crap

Look for quality relationships

]]> Comment on Women, adultery, leadership, and Jesus….. by Nancy http://rodesmith.com/2010/07/26/women-adultery-leadership-and-jesus/#comment-25986 Nancy Tue, 27 Jul 2010 16:26:52 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/?p=3480#comment-25986 Beautiful indeed, thanks for your healing words, Rod -- I see the woman set free by truth. Beautiful indeed, thanks for your healing words, Rod — I see the woman set free by truth.

]]> Comment on Monday: day of opportunity….. by Laurel Bower http://rodesmith.com/2010/07/25/monday-day-of-opportunity/#comment-25984 Laurel Bower Tue, 27 Jul 2010 03:54:14 +0000 http://rodesmith.com/?p=3455#comment-25984 Rod! When I get by to read your wit, wisdom general life stuff... I am always amazed at the timing. Anyway thank you so much for this special piece. I am keeping it, sharing it, and thanking God for it. Miss you and your family.. crazy times and TRIPLETS! who does that anyway!? blessings, Laurel Rod!

When I get by to read your wit, wisdom general life stuff… I am always amazed at the timing. Anyway thank you so much for this special piece. I am keeping it, sharing it, and thanking God for it.

Miss you and your family.. crazy times and TRIPLETS! who does that anyway!?

blessings,

Laurel

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