Posted on April 6, 2009 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
Infidelity is hard to forgive. Not forgiving it is harder. One is a severe punch. The other is a double whammy, its impact potentially outlasting the memory of the betrayal.
Unwillingness to forgive is often the only thing onto which a slighted spouse can hold, the only available ammunition to make a spouse pay. It’s [...]
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Posted on May 30, 2008 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
Lizz,
There are a whole range of responses that men have to women being pregnant and giving birth. Difficult though it is for me to understand, I’m aware that a significant number of men find pregnant women to be unusually attractive, even to the point of becoming fantasy objects. Likewise, some men see mothers as more [...]
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Posted on October 1, 2007 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
Reader’s question: My boyfriend says we have to have sex to see if we are sexually compatible before he will continue seeing me. What do you think?
Rod’s answer: What an old, and ridiculous line. Move on! Your boyfriend is what I call a “pp” or “penis propelled.” If you really want to assess sexual compatibility [...]
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Posted on March 14, 2007 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
Unhealthy patterns occur in relationships when a person …
Does not sufficiently, or successfully, sever, and then recover from a previous romantic relationship before a new one begins. (Commonly referred to as “rebounding.”)
Embraces a false, or faulty, unrealistic, definition of love.
Gives the relationship an inordinate amount of attention. (This is seen when someone seems to disappear [...]
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Posted on February 27, 2007 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
QUESTION: My girlfriend was very sexually active before we met. Jealousy often rages in me. She won’t tell me about any of her past relationships and it feels to me like she still prefers other men.
ROD’S REPLY: I predict that the more this eats at you, the more you will want to know. The more [...]
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Posted on July 12, 2006 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
Reader’s Question: My boyfriend says we have to have sex to see if we are sexually compatible before he will continue seeing me. What do you think?
Rod’s Answer: What an old and ridiculous line. Move on! Your boyfriend is what I call a “pp” or “penis propelled.” If you really want to assess sexual [...]
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