Posted on October 10, 2007 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
Are you emotionally out of shape? Psychologically exhausted? Tramped on? Feel trapped? Just as a person can be physically run down, so also can one become emotionally depleted. Here are simple, not easy, steps to getting your internal life into shape. Each will do your internal life as much good as frequent exercise does for [...]
Filed under: Alcoholism, Anger, Authentic love, Betrayal, Boundaries, Cheating, Children, Coaching, Communication, Community, Control issues, Dads, Differentiation, Difficult Relationships, Disrespect, Divorce, Domination, Double standards, Family, First date, Flirting, Forgiveness, Friendship, Growing up, Happiness, High maintenance relationships, Intimidation, Jealousy, Listening, Living together, Long distance relationships, Marriage, Marriage and in-laws, Meditation, Parenting/Children, Past relationships, Personal growth, Pornography, Re-marriage, Reactivity, Recovery, Relationships, Sexual abuse, Sexual compatibility, Toxic Relationships, Victims, Violence, Voice | Tagged: , drink, drunk, emotional, exhausted, help, Marriage, remarriage, tired | 7 Comments »
Posted on September 21, 2007 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
http://www.personal-growth-with-corinne-edwards.com/marrying-whats-the-rush
“You’re good looking. How come nobody ever married YOU?’
I was 20. The question was asked by Mickey – I’ll never forget his name – at a wedding. I was maid of honor for the fifth time that year for friends who had achieved the honor of someone marrying them!
I felt so shamed. [...]
Filed under: Attraction, Authentic love, Boundaries, First date, Happiness, Living together, Love, Marriage, Personal growth, Re-marriage, Voice, Young Love | No Comments »
Posted on September 1, 2007 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
“My boyfriend annoys me. He is jealous and petty and he is moody. But my family loves him and so I stay with him. I did not realize this until I took a long hard look at what was keeping me with him. Now he is talking marriage and I am thinking things will get [...]
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Posted on March 15, 2007 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
To the woman who doesn’t understand her boyfriend’s need for “space”:
I’d suggest that when the relationship began it got too hot (too close, too intense, too everything) too soon. Once a little dust settled, what was intense and powerful feels just as powerfully suffocating.
When you want to know where he is, what he’s thinking, who [...]
Filed under: Authentic love, Betrayal, Boundaries, Community, Compatibility, First date, Reactivity, Recovery, Relationships, Space, Voice | 5 Comments »
Posted on December 7, 2006 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
“My relationships begin well then I find out the person has a whole lot of baggage. If this continues I will be alone and never get married. Do you have any suggestions?”
There are worse conditions than singleness. If you do not believe me, ask any person trapped in a toxic marriage. To be lonely, and [...]
Filed under: Boundaries, Communication, Compatibility, Dating, Family, First date, Flirting, Flirts, Happiness, Humor | 3 Comments »
Posted on November 1, 2006 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
“My father cut out your article about dating a divorced person. I have been divorced for a little over a year and have met a ’soon-to-be-divorced’ man. To be honest I have to admit many of the points struck home. I already have a bump on my head from my first marriage. I don’t have [...]
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Posted on July 12, 2006 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
Reader’s Question: My boyfriend says we have to have sex to see if we are sexually compatible before he will continue seeing me. What do you think?
Rod’s Answer: What an old and ridiculous line. Move on! Your boyfriend is what I call a “pp” or “penis propelled.” If you really want to assess sexual [...]
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Posted on May 6, 2006 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
When you first meet someone and decide to have a first date don’t:
1. Get too close too quickly.
2. Get physical.
3. Give or lend money.
4. Tell everything.
5. Allow the person to move in with you.
6. Let them use your credit cards.
7. Let them use your car.
8. Let them sign or use your name on anything.
9. [...]
Filed under: Abuse, Control issues, Dating, First date, Intimidation, Jealousy, Love, Manipulation, Personal growth, Sex matters, Sexual abuse | 1 Comment »
