Posted on July 4, 2008 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
“There’s a lonely man where I work. I know he’s unhappily married. I can see it in his eyes. You are going to say I should stay away from him because I have read you for years. What if I just want to have fun? The best sex I have ever had has been with [...]
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Posted on July 3, 2008 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
It’s no secret that many men avoid deeper intimacy with other men. I suggest it would be helpful for men to form intentional support “MWE groups” or “Men Without Egos” groups. Here are some guidelines to establish such a group. While “WWW” for “Women Without Walls” is not original, I did come up (note the [...]
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Posted on July 2, 2008 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
I’m going to suggest and challenge readers to form more intentional small groups. Here are some guidelines to establish such a group. For women, I’d suggest the group be called “WWW” for “Women Without Walls.” This is not original, it’s a name used by ten women I know, who have been meeting for years:
1. Meet for [...]
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Posted on July 1, 2008 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
“I’ve been a husband for 18 years. I have been suffering from diagnosed clinical depression for two years. This has taken a huge toll on my family, putting me close to suicide several times. In an effort to find something to make me happy, I had a two-month affair. In a moment of sanity, I [...]
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Posted on June 26, 2008 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
(ORIGINAL POSTER: send me an email and I will talk to you on the phone. Rod Smith)
I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this but I hope to get some feedback….
[I trust many readers will let you know what they think --- you will find my comments inserted preceded by my [...]
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Posted on June 25, 2008 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
There is much debate about the disciplining of children. Here are two readers expressing contrary views. What do you think? How does it work (or not work) in your family? I welcome your responses:
“I have four kids and if one of them gets out of line I will spank their bottoms. Kids nowadays get away [...]
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Posted on June 18, 2008 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
Sexual behaviors can provide powerful insight into a person’s life. While it is tempting to label people and behavior, it is seldom helpful when solutions to damaging or addictive behaviors are sought. It is helpful to note that:
1. Sexuality, and sexual problems, cannot be divorced from a person’s “whole.” To say “this is just a sexual [...]
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Posted on June 17, 2008 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
A READER WRITES….
“I’ve just ended a 6 year affair with a married man. I lost my husband tragically the year before I met ‘V’. He befriended me and made me feel ‘whole’ again and about 6 months down the line, the affair started. I’m very angry because he lied to me all these years - [...]
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Posted on June 16, 2008 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
“In January my husband changed. I thought it was work stress. I noticed a text saved but not sent, ‘by the way you looked good today.’ I was crying all the time and could not let things go. He was away over Easter with work. I noticed on his bank statement a small amount of [...]
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Posted on June 12, 2008 by Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
“I am married and have a situation at work. A colleague, who works directly for me, is friendly with me and she keeps saying that does not want to be intimate but shows me many signs like allowing me to see the color of her underwear. She says she needs a hug and frequently and [...]
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