Difficult Relationships / Rod E. Smith

“I’ve been with my partner for 8 years. When we’re fighting he phones old girlfriends, won’t answer his phone, is extremely verbally abusive, and minimizes our relationship (because we’re not married). He mocks and makes fun of me if I cry. He has destroyed my belongings and stays out all night. He calls a woman [...]

Filed under: Abuse, Affairs, Anger, Authentic love, Betrayal, Victims, Violence, Voice | Tagged: control, fusion, manipulaiton, Toxic Relationships | 6 Comments »

Jealousy will remove purity from your relationship. Since jealousy expresses the very opposite of trust, once the jealousy virus entrenches itself (which it usually does perversely in the name of love) you and your relationship will become something you do not want to be. Freedom will be displaced by resentment.
The jealous person will behave in [...]

Filed under: Abuse, Anger, Attraction, Authentic love, Betrayal, Control issues, High maintenance relationships, Jealousy, Victims, Violence, Voice | Tagged: controlling behavior, Jealousy | 3 Comments »

“I am in an affair with a married man. Although it is a year it seems like a lifetime. I was married when we began our relationship. My husband moved away and I thought he was going to make the break with his wife. One day he tells me not to give up on him. [...]

Filed under: Affairs, Anger, Attraction, Authentic love, Betrayal, Boundaries, Victims, Voice | Tagged: affair, anguish, emotional, help, husband, relationship hell, wife | 8 Comments »

“Wow! I happened to fall upon this site and I am so amazed at all the responses on this matter. I am not proud of what I am about to say but I fell in love with a married man. It started out as a professional relationship, but he flirted and pursued me [...]

Filed under: Affairs, Anger, Attraction, Betrayal | Tagged: affair, Counseling, Family, father, help, lover, Money, mother, parents, sex, therapy, time, waste | 1 Comment »

“My husband tries to keep me happy by buying me stuffed animals. If we had sex for every stuffed animal he’s given me then we’d never have gotten out of bed. I don’t have enough room for all these stupid things. It’s clear he’s not interested in me physically and he says I’m wrong. I [...]

Filed under: Anger, Betrayal, Differentiation, Difficult Relationships, Disrespect, Victims, Voice, Womanhood | Tagged: Difficult Relationships, more sex, stuffed animals, toxic | 2 Comments »

Here’s a letter from a woman seeking help from other women. Please Email me with your suggestions:
“Until yesterday I was having an affair with a married man with children. I never pursed him. He pursued me like a wild man. He called me over 20 times a day. I caved in. Throughout our [...]

Filed under: Abuse, Affairs, Anger, Attraction, Authentic love, Betrayal | Tagged: affair, Counseling, Family, father, help, lover, Money, mother, parents, sex, therapy, time, waste | 19 Comments »

“I want to save my marriage. Our situation has risen to a new level with issues of jealously and trust. He takes my car keys, he checks up on me, I no longer have friends around, and am no longer allowed ‘ladies nights.’ My brother is not allowed to visit. My husband doesn’t want children. [...]

Filed under: Abuse, Alcoholism, Anger, Attraction, Authentic love, Betrayal, Boundaries, Communication, Community, Compatibility, Control issues, Differentiation, Difficult Relationships, Divorce, Domination, Double standards, Grief, High maintenance relationships, Interpersonal intimacy, Intimidation, Jealousy | Tagged: better life, Counseling, counselling, future, husband, Marriage, passionate marriage, pre-marriage, Schnarch, wife | 4 Comments »

Are you dating or married to a man who could physically harm or kill you, or harm or kill someone you love?
Dangerous relationships are easier to endure than to address, so it is not surprising that the murder of a wife, an ex-wife or lover usually takes everyone by surprise.
Secrecy, cover-up and denial are the [...]

Filed under: Abuse, Affairs, Anxiety, Attraction, Authentic love, Betrayal, Control issues, Dating, Differentiation, Difficult Relationships, High maintenance relationships, Toxic Relationships, Victims | Tagged: Anger, husband, Love, Manipulation, Marriage, murder, sex, trouble, venting, Violence, wife | 4 Comments »

“My husband got caught up in an affair with a woman at work. Distance made it was difficult for them to see each other but it lasted 18 months. I found out. We moved country. Changed company. All forgiven. Our stable, happy marriage of 33 years suffered but was reestablished. Now 8 months ago, he [...]

Filed under: Affairs, Anger, Attraction, Betrayal, Victims, Violence, Voice, Womanhood | Tagged: affair, debate, discuss, Family, husband, no sex marriage, power, sex, talk, wife | 2 Comments »

It is in us to love. It’s human. We have the capacity for it. Even hurt and rejected people can love. Once a person accepts that love has more than romantic connotations, as powerful and valid as these of course are, he or she will be able to see its broader power.
Love is unleashed through [...]

Filed under: Anger, Anxiety, Attraction, Authentic love, Betrayal, Boundaries, Cheating, Children, Communication, Community, Compatibility, Control issues, Dads, Differentiation, Difficult Relationships, Double standards, Faith, Family, Generosity, Grace, Growing up, Happiness, High maintenance relationships, Interpersonal intimacy, Listening, Long distance relationships, Love, Marriage, Meditation, Past relationships, Personal growth, Re-marriage, Recovery, Sexual abuse, Sexual compatibility, Therapeutic Process, Toxic Relationships, Triggers, Trust, Victims, Voice, Weddings, Womanhood, Young Love | Tagged: courage, Family, healing, hurt, husband, Love, wife | 4 Comments »