“My husband, like many other men, considers Mothers Day to be a commercialized rip-off. He says that I am not his mother and will not acknowledge Mothers Day for me. I feel it would be nice to be acknowledged as the mother of his children . It would be nice if he set a good example to the children and helped them choose a card or very small gift so that they learn to show appreciation for what is done for the mom a daily basis. What I find very hurtful is that the day before Mothers Day he asks me what I have bought for his mother for Mothers Day even though she is not MY mother. Every Fathers Day I buy him a small gift and a card from myself and the children and wish him because I think it is healthy for the children to learn to say thank you and show appreciation and also I would like to be the bigger person. We have had children for 16 years. Please comment.”
Mother Day may well be a commercialized rip-off. But, your husband could still MAKE something beautiful for you and, in so doing, teach your children to resist predatory commercialism and express how he treasures the mother of his children! Happy Mothers Day!
Filed under: Difficult Relationships
Your not my mother. My husband said that years ago. Valentine’s Day. Stupid Holiday. My B-day. Never really paid attention. X-mas. He always goes overboard. It is not that we want material things per say, but some positive attention or excitement. This has ruined my holiday’s. I feel I have nothing to look forward too.
My husband’s said the same things about Mother’s Day. I asked him not to get me a gift this year. Last year, our first Mother’s Day together, he gave me a gift, then ranted about how b.s. it all was and how much he resented having to buy it. I think a real man could suck it up for a day, and be kind and generous to his wife. But some of us are married to real jerks, that’s the painful truth.