“I have left my husband for another man and I worked so very hard to start a new life with him. It is not easy at all. I ended up more alone than before and was fueled with anxiety and had to take medication. I lost interest in everything just about because I loved this man so much. He is now drifting away from me and I am alone. My marriage is over and I am about to lose my children because of what I have done. I loved this ‘other’ man much more then he loved me and now I feel the effects. It’s the worst feeling in the world to love some one so much when you cannot fully have them.” (Minimal edits)
Your heart has deceived you and resulted in enormous consequences for you and your family. I repeat: extramarital affairs are seductive – seducing participants from the real issues within the marriage and resulting in a new relationship destined to be flawed. The impulse for an affair (need this be said?) is a strong signal that the marriage, not the third party, requires attention.
August 13, 2008 at 4:27 pm
People like you destory lifes because you act like animals in heat, so you got what’s coming. You don,t deserve any sympathy!
In some parts of the world this behavoir is still consider a criminal offence.
August 14, 2008 at 8:32 pm
I pray things within your soul are healing and you will learn to forgive yourself. There is no need to dwell on the mistake that has already been made. It is important however to learn a valuable lesson. One in life, and one in the art of forgiveness. We are human beings with powerful emotions. You have had the opportunity to experience a great deal of emotions because of an mistake you made in your life. Learn from this and you will be a better person and your kids will love you for that! Good Luck and God Bless.
Funny how the person above almost has the same name as me!
August 29, 2008 at 6:37 am
My wife of 7 years left me and our 3 children 4 months ago for a man she met on the internet, she now lives abroad in his country with him. To be honest, at the time I was devastated and vowed to get her back, but now I’m starting to feel like he’s welcome to her, any woman who can do that doesn’t deserve me to be honest. Our marriage was pretty good, I just didn’t pay her enough attention which is what the other guy did. They started out as friends but he took advantage of her at a vulnerable time. Anyway, good luck with whatever happens but you reap what you sow and if you do end up losing everything then you only have yourself to blame.
May 28, 2009 at 8:46 am
Man, ithink as long as you have kids you are better off, Having a partner just doesnt work, yes we enjoy it in the begining but it always ends, so the will always be the beginnings for me cos those are good time. That doesnt mean i leave my women,NO, they leave me so i am used to it and I always enjoy the new beginning, wel change always comes and change is pain to other people, but I am always waiting for change, wether in relationshsips and career,
Those who want to be stucked with old boring partners good luck
September 24, 2008 at 9:40 pm
There’s a reason that the last two circles in Dante’s hell are saved for those that have committed conscious fraud and treachery. (Comment edited for general audience by Rod)
February 5, 2009 at 2:15 pm
Like Gary, my wife of 7 years left. At first, I too wanted her back. Today, almost 6 years after the divorce was final, it was one of the best things to happen to me.
It’s hard for me to have sympathy for men or women who cheat upon their spouses and their children, or for their partners who regardless of their marital status, I find to be just as low when it comes to moral fibre content.
Seems our society wants to believe men are more unfaithful than women, yet unless these men are having affairs with other men, there are women for each of these men willing to have an affair.
Since both know they are not married to one another, and often the other man or the other woman knows their partner is married, they are just as unfaithful to the social contract of marriage as are the cheating spouses.
Both parties involved in an affair are cheating, regardless their current marital status.
April 17, 2009 at 9:04 am
Joe, it’s been 8 months since I posted here, and I can safely say that life couldn’t be any better than it is now. I have met and fallen in love with a wonderful woman, my kids are happier than ever, and between me and you I’m getting the best sex of my life!
I will always love my ex wife, and cherish the time we had together, but going back? NEVER!!!!!!!!
I hope anybody that reads this can take comfort from knowing that however painful things are for you right now, THEY WILL GET BETTER!!!! I promise!!!!!!
And I hope the woman that originally posted here has found some peace, either with her new love or with her ex. Nobody blames you my dear, but I hope you have learned something. And I hope you do find happiness in the end, one way or another.
May 28, 2009 at 8:51 am
I ahd i woman few weeks aggo, she left her man and come stay with me and the man was so hurt. The guy called me threatining me, but I told him I dont see why he should fight me cos i am not the one who left him, and maybe I was not gonna leave him. Well as time goes the woman decided to go back to the guy coz the guy wanted her so much, I let her go but I dont think I can take her back, though I still love her. I will be a freeman again, going anywher I want anytime I want to, with no one monitoring my moves.
I am not taking any women who left me back, no matter how I love them, I move on, maybe lets make lot of money have good life, women need powerful men, so its all in the man back pocket!
July 4, 2009 at 8:36 am
Fiance’s x-wife was having an affair, chose to move in with new beau & not take children(actually they do not want to go ages 9, 13 & 16 then). Continuous calls calling dad to come get them because beau was not very nice to them or a party had ensued. 2yrs. later we met, and the calls never stopped to complain about kids when they were visting & eventually middle child(son) w/ drugs. 4 yrs, into the relationship found out that Mom was behind the scences w/ daughters telling them to me rude to me to get me out of the picture. Even though she was living w/ another man, she still wanted dad back(I felt it, but stayed fast because we had a great relationship). Evetually Son went to jail & fiance fell apart and we separated for 4 monthsHis choice, he had nothing left to give me at this time). Found out about 8 months after we got back together, that the X swooped in(using Son as the pawn)to get back together. It definatley did not work as by then the children knew we were a TEAM & told me of the parents “dating”. They actually did not want it to happen, but their mother is their mother as they say.
She is a sociopath and now we all know how not to feed into the games.