Comments on: Wife flirts at parties and I do not like it http://rodesmith.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/ 1000+ columns - increasing daily - sometimes the web has a face Fri, 30 Jul 2010 23:21:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Anonymous http://rodesmith.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-25141 Anonymous Fri, 29 Jan 2010 16:30:14 +0000 https://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-25141 Just love her and understand that you are loved by here but she needs more than you can give her. You do give her the most important thing though, love. So let her do what else she needs to do to be happy and you all should be successful in your marriage. Just love her and understand that you are loved by here but she needs more than you can give her. You do give her the most important thing though, love. So let her do what else she needs to do to be happy and you all should be successful in your marriage.

]]> By: jake http://rodesmith.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-25092 jake Mon, 04 Jan 2010 18:57:30 +0000 https://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-25092 I think what she does is very disrespectful and she should stop it. If she wants to flirt with others she needs to be single. It is not acceptable for somebody to be married and flirt without their spouses consent. I think what she does is very disrespectful and she should stop it. If she wants to flirt with others she needs to be single. It is not acceptable for somebody to be married and flirt without their spouses consent.

]]> By: kmg http://rodesmith.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-25079 kmg Fri, 01 Jan 2010 20:48:35 +0000 https://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-25079 Oh and I forgot to add, she was sickly drunk!!! Oh and I forgot to add, she was sickly drunk!!!

]]> By: kmg http://rodesmith.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-25078 kmg Fri, 01 Jan 2010 20:47:47 +0000 https://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-25078 My wife thinks it's ok that I got home at a decent hour 1am and she comes in at 5am. I don't beleive this is a good thing and I was very upset with her. Why does someone do this and not care it hurts someone else so much??? My wife thinks it’s ok that I got home at a decent hour 1am and she comes in at 5am.
I don’t beleive this is a good thing and I was very upset with her.
Why does someone do this and not care it hurts someone else so much???

]]> By: wow http://rodesmith.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-24920 wow Fri, 18 Dec 2009 05:43:27 +0000 https://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-24920 Are you people serious...how is this innocent? any girl that gives her attention to another man has no integrity or trustworthiness I would never be jealous and I would never try to control but I would burn out on this girl so fast... I would tell that she can do whatever she wants but sign this divorce paper paper first Are you people serious…how is this innocent?
any girl that gives her attention to another man has no integrity or trustworthiness
I would never be jealous and I would never try to control but I would burn out on this girl so fast…
I would tell that she can do whatever she wants but sign this divorce paper paper first

]]> By: Anonymous http://rodesmith.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-24707 Anonymous Sun, 01 Nov 2009 01:26:38 +0000 https://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-24707 IMO ~ a straight guy is less likely to accept or experiment with a gay guy flirting with him.... where as a gay man would be more susceptible to bisexuality (even tho they may more associate as being 'gay'). A gay guy has more 'freedom' to accept the advances of both sexes than a 'straight' guy would have just 'casually' accepting the advances of another man. I dont buy the "Their all gay, so its ok if we joke around & get touchy-feely" ~ Whatever! ok, so maybe because I'm Jealous of my wife's flirting ~ that makes me the one having issues... BUT ~ if she really respected you & loved you ~ & you told her this behavior hurts you & angers you ~ she should respect that & try to change her behavior! my wife likes to dance ~ I blew a gasket when she danced with a neighbor while we were at a bar together ~ she knows I did not / do not approve, so when she goes out of town for work (sometimes for a week at a time) ~ the camera contains pics of her & 'the girls' at a bar / night club & shots of her with some other guy whooping it up! WTF??!! oh well ... that is now why we are getting a divorce ~ after that, she can whore it up all she wants! IMO ~ a straight guy is less likely to accept or experiment with a gay guy flirting with him…. where as a gay man would be more susceptible to bisexuality (even tho they may more associate as being ‘gay’). A gay guy has more ‘freedom’ to accept the advances of both sexes than a ‘straight’ guy would have just ‘casually’ accepting the advances of another man.

I dont buy the “Their all gay, so its ok if we joke around & get touchy-feely” ~ Whatever!

ok, so maybe because I’m Jealous of my wife’s flirting ~ that makes me the one having issues… BUT ~ if she really respected you & loved you ~ & you told her this behavior hurts you & angers you ~ she should respect that & try to change her behavior! my wife likes to dance ~ I blew a gasket when she danced with a neighbor while we were at a bar together ~ she knows I did not / do not approve, so when she goes out of town for work (sometimes for a week at a time) ~ the camera contains pics of her & ‘the girls’ at a bar / night club & shots of her with some other guy whooping it up! WTF??!!

oh well … that is now why we are getting a divorce ~ after that, she can whore it up all she wants!

]]> By: joseph http://rodesmith.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-22563 joseph Sun, 01 Mar 2009 12:02:58 +0000 https://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-22563 I will generally comment about flirtatious wives, my wife being one. We dont talk about it much although she has admitted to it . Sometimes I dont know whether I am making a big deal of it or not but I am currently living with one of my best friends from university days and we all used to be kind of close back then, I have always suspected that my wife has had a fling or even kissed this friend of mine. I have never had the courage to confront him though I have brought it up with the my wife and she strongly denies it. Whenever the 3 of us are together, my wife and friend converse and laugh out quite alot and throws flirtatious comment.s Recently she unceremoniously held him around the waist and he held her back infront of me and another colleague. I thought she had done that on purpose to probably get me jealous. I felt quite embarrassed, angry, disrespected, and all the negative feelings you can imagine. I ignored her the following day and behaved as if she never existed for a full 24 hours. The whole time she acted like she did not know why I had reacted that way. When I brought it up later the following day, she had been quite drained and very sad to a point of crying that I had treated her like shit by shutting her out for a whole day. When I got the courage to bring it up she pleaded innocence and claimed that was an innocent hug and that me of all people should know that there is nothing between the two of them as they had just been close friend right from university days and that it was her habbit to hug people. Recently my friend left his inbox open and I found that a good number of Love emails from 2003 to 2004 where she repeatedly refered to him as sweetie of sweetest of hearts or using "our love" in her sentences. I tried to confront her but again she denied and I could not press on because I could not divulge the source of my information She has never admitted to having had a fling with my friend yet I know it has happened, she says though that back then even before we got married that my friend has asked her a couple of times for a kiss and she turned him down. On the other hand I feel she has done alot to show that she loves me, she has given up her job in USA to come and join me in Africa, she has even promised never to appear flirtatious around my friend knowing that it gets me mad and she constantly reassures me that she loves me and that she would doe anything to make this work. My problem is that the 3 of us are going to live in the same house and knowing what happened between my friend and her makes me really uncomfortable. What should I do I will generally comment about flirtatious wives, my wife being one. We dont talk about it much although she has admitted to it . Sometimes I dont know whether I am making a big deal of it or not but I am currently living with one of my best friends from university days and we all used to be kind of close back then, I have always suspected that my wife has had a fling or even kissed this friend of mine. I have never had the courage to confront him though I have brought it up with the my wife and she strongly denies it. Whenever the 3 of us are together, my wife and friend converse and laugh out quite alot and throws flirtatious comment.s Recently she unceremoniously held him around the waist and he held her back infront of me and another colleague. I thought she had done that on purpose to probably get me jealous. I felt quite embarrassed, angry, disrespected, and all the negative feelings you can imagine. I ignored her the following day and behaved as if she never existed for a full 24 hours. The whole time she acted like she did not know why I had reacted that way. When I brought it up later the following day, she had been quite drained and very sad to a point of crying that I had treated her like shit by shutting her out for a whole day. When I got the courage to bring it up she pleaded innocence and claimed that was an innocent hug and that me of all people should know that there is nothing between the two of them as they had just been close friend right from university days and that it was her habbit to hug people. Recently my friend left his inbox open and I found that a good number of Love emails from 2003 to 2004 where she repeatedly refered to him as sweetie of sweetest of hearts or using “our love” in her sentences. I tried to confront her but again she denied and I could not press on because I could not divulge the source of my information She has never admitted to having had a fling with my friend yet I know it has happened, she says though that back then even before we got married that my friend has asked her a couple of times for a kiss and she turned him down. On the other hand I feel she has done alot to show that she loves me, she has given up her job in USA to come and join me in Africa, she has even promised never to appear flirtatious around my friend knowing that it gets me mad and she constantly reassures me that she loves me and that she would doe anything to make this work. My problem is that the 3 of us are going to live in the same house and knowing what happened between my friend and her makes me really uncomfortable. What should I do

]]> By: joseph http://rodesmith.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-22562 joseph Sun, 01 Mar 2009 11:46:53 +0000 https://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-22562 I will generally comment about flirtatious wives, my wife being one. We dont talk about it much although she has admitted to it . Sometimes I dont know whether I am making a big deal of it or not but I am currently living with one of my best friends from university days and we all used to be kind of close back then, I have always suspected that my wife has had a fling or even kissed this friend of mine. I have never had the courage to confront him though I have brought it up with the my wife and she strongly denies it. Whenever the 3 of us are together, my wife and friend converse and laugh out quite alot and throws flirtatious comment.s Recently she unceremoniously held him around the waist and he held her back infront of me and another colleague. I thought she had done that on purpose to probably get me jealous. I felt quite embarrassed, angry, disrespected, and all the negative feelings you can imagine. I ignored her the following day and behaved as if she never existed for a full 24 hours. The whole time she acted like she did not know why I had reacted that way. When I brought it up later the following day, she had been quite drained and very sad to a point of crying that I had treated her like shit by shutting her out for a whole day. When I got the courage to bring it up sh I will generally comment about flirtatious wives, my wife being one. We dont talk about it much although she has admitted to it . Sometimes I dont know whether I am making a big deal of it or not but I am currently living with one of my best friends from university days and we all used to be kind of close back then, I have always suspected that my wife has had a fling or even kissed this friend of mine. I have never had the courage to confront him though I have brought it up with the my wife and she strongly denies it. Whenever the 3 of us are together, my wife and friend converse and laugh out quite alot and throws flirtatious comment.s Recently she unceremoniously held him around the waist and he held her back infront of me and another colleague. I thought she had done that on purpose to probably get me jealous. I felt quite embarrassed, angry, disrespected, and all the negative feelings you can imagine. I ignored her the following day and behaved as if she never existed for a full 24 hours. The whole time she acted like she did not know why I had reacted that way. When I brought it up later the following day, she had been quite drained and very sad to a point of crying that I had treated her like shit by shutting her out for a whole day. When I got the courage to bring it up sh

]]> By: tiredgirl http://rodesmith.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-22513 tiredgirl Tue, 17 Feb 2009 21:08:36 +0000 https://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-22513 I agree that flirting can become dangerous, but sometimes it can be just plain flirting. i for one, have many more male friends than female friends. I find it easier to get along with them. My husband gets so worked up about them lately. I wont go into it, but Idid slip up and give him a reason (ONCE) to be concerned. I am genuinely sorry for it but it has been over a year and I still feel like he watches me like a hawk waiting for me to slip up again. I want to be more respectful of him and just not flirt, but I feel like that means not having these people as friends and that hurts me. I agree that flirting can become dangerous, but sometimes it can be just plain flirting. i for one, have many more male friends than female friends. I find it easier to get along with them. My husband gets so worked up about them lately. I wont go into it, but Idid slip up and give him a reason (ONCE) to be concerned. I am genuinely sorry for it but it has been over a year and I still feel like he watches me like a hawk waiting for me to slip up again.
I want to be more respectful of him and just not flirt, but I feel like that means not having these people as friends and that hurts me.

]]> By: mafia http://rodesmith.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-22294 mafia Wed, 07 Jan 2009 13:47:03 +0000 https://rodesmith.wordpress.com/2006/06/13/wife-flirts-at-parties-and-i-do-not-like-it/#comment-22294 My husband of 35 years flirted openly in front of me. She smiled, hugged, patted, joked with other women to my exclusion. He always said it is my problem I should grow up. At first I thought he makes me jealous, It did. I confronted him many times. The more I said it the more he did it openly. With different women and later with the same woman. Last year he married that woman and left me after 35 years. I agree that flirting always leads to something else My husband of 35 years flirted openly in front of me. She smiled, hugged, patted, joked with other women to my exclusion. He always said it is my problem I should grow up. At first I thought he makes me jealous, It did. I confronted him many times. The more I said it the more he did it openly. With different women and later with the same woman. Last year he married that woman and left me after 35 years. I agree that flirting always leads to something else

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