Costly dating errors

When you first meet someone and decide to have a first date don’t:

1. Get too close too quickly.
2. Get physical.
3. Give or lend money.
4. Tell everything.
5. Allow the person to move in with you.
6. Let them use your credit cards.
7. Let them use your car.
8. Let them sign or use your name on anything.
9. Let them use your address.
10. Let them baby-sit your children.
11. Modify your values or your morals to impress him/her.
12. Go against the advice of people who have loved you for a long time.

There is no love at first sight! Exercise cautious wisdom in all new relationships. While thinking readers might find this list absurdly unnecessary, I have had bright, thinking clients who have done one (or a few) of these things on a first date. Their errors have been very costly to some clients.


About Rod E. Smith, MSMFT
Rod Smith is a family therapist who writes a daily newspaper column called "YOU AND ME" which has run in The Mercury (east coast of South Africa) for the past nine years. Contact Rod for more information.

One Response to Costly dating errors

  1. feelingflirty says:

    You write really well.

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